Let’s be honest, how many people do you see crying in public? Too few. How do you react to most of those? Feel sorry for them or look at them as weaklings. That’s right, the human mind seems programmed to look at this as some type of weakness, when in fact it is the purest emotion there exists.
We cry the moment we are born, and we do it quite openly, regardless if we are male or female, there is nothing wrong with it. It’s a reaction that comes from hard times, unexpected changes, and basically letting go of the old while we try to accommodate to the new. There is nothing wrong with it, even if someone else tells you that.
Psychologically speaking crying can be viewed as a medicine for the mind because there is nothing worse than holding feelings inside you until you explode. You need to let go of those old feelings from time to time in order to make place for new ones and rinsing your soul through some tears is just the perfect way to do it.
You don’t have to do in front of other people if it makes you feel uncomfortable, you can do it in your own room before you go to bed. Think about everything bad that has happened recently, give yourself the worst emotional blow you can – you will be surprised how good you will feel the morning after you’ve cried yourself to bed. And this goes to both genders, because those stereotypes about it being a girly thing are complete crap.
A man is not strong if he does not cry, but is just living a happy life or otherwise lacks feelings. In my opinion lacking feelings might just be the worst thing you can have in your life, because there is nothing as exceptional as the wonderful world of feelings. Cherish the good ones, learn from the bad ones, but forget neither because they shape us into who we become and create our views of the world.
Strength is measured by how much you survive, and crying is an essential part of survival – it shows that we are dealing with difficulties. This means you shouldn’t cry over every single bad thing that happens to you. Definitely not, you don’t want to be a whimp on a daily basis. But when life gets too hard, don’t hold the tears in, let them go. Tears come naturally and shouldn’t be held back. They are the purest of emotions and if someone cannot see you cry then they shouldn’t be beside you in the first place.
It is nothing to be ashamed of, but something to be proud of. Of course, as long as you have proper reasons for it and not use it for personal needs, like getting attention from someone. That’s lying and it goes against everything that tears represent. The only time you’re allowed to pretend you are crying is when you’re on stage, filming a movie or acting in theater.
“We need never be ashamed of our tears.” ~ Charles Dickens, Great Expectations.